giving the right kind of help without hindering
this is a draft but
being patient as we thaw out
being supportive
encouraging us to extend ourselves as we are able
to appreciate there are internal barriers amnd we might not know what barriers are there or what they are
understanding
understanding our relative, partner, spouce, parent, child, friend who is in recovery
or survival mode
more to come
one point
most survivors do not become predittators
most of us oppose preditators and want them brought before the courts
most of us are sensitive
caring
we want the best for others
its just that we have iner hinderances to giving out, to sharing, to participating in life.
trusting God
Pastors, Elders, Christian friends
you have a special ministry
if you have faith in Christ
if you depend on His grace
if you release the fifts of ministry He has givem
if you sensitivly apply the scriptures
if you apply the Lord's healing balm
but please - repentance is for those who sin
its not relevant to those of us who were sined against
a spare the compulsary forgiveness obligation
hey - you don;t forgive those you gossip about
give us a break
we need time ....
to be ready to forgive
"forgivemnes trips" are the greatest offence to survivors I have observed